Aloha Friday: A Holiday of Exhaustion and Stress, A Payoff of Pride
As I mentioned previously, I had a lot of cleaning to do before Passover. The good news is that I got the cleaning done. The bad news is that it came with a ton of stress.
Growing up, I remember my mother cleaning for Passover. She would tear apart the entire kitchen, cleaning every cabinet and drawer even if we weren’t using them for the holiday. The process took about a week and was completely exhausting. (It didn’t help that my father, my sister and I didn’t help. Bad younger me!)
Even though I don’t do the intense cleaning that she does and even though I made a checklist a few years back to help organize the process, it still is tiring work.
Then came the Seders. I like going to B’s aunt’s Seders. We get to see family and it means I don’t have to cook two meals just after a tiring cleaning session. On the other hand, the Seders tend to run long. We left the first Seder at 11:30pm (before it was completely over) and the second after midnight (again, before it was over). The kids, somehow, stayed awake until after midnight each time.
Add in a bad sore throat that brought back memories of my New Year’s Day bout with strep (and therefore a trip to the doctor’s office to rule it out) and you can see why I’ve been feeling especially stressed out.
And yet, amid the stress and exhaustion, there were moments of joy. Playing with my boys, spending time with them, and seeing them spend time playing with relatives. But, perhaps best of all was seeing NHL at the Seder. He loved singing Ma Nishtana (the Four Questions). Perhaps he didn’t get all the words right, but he tried his best and enjoyed it.
Then, when it came time for responsive reading (which passes from person to person), he declined. He didn’t want to read just any passage, he wanted to read the names of the 10 plagues. During this, we dip our fingers in our wine glasses and leave a drop on our plates for each plague. The symbolism here is that, in Judaism, wine represents joy. Though we are happy to be free, our joy is diminished by the realization that people were injured/killed in the process of the exodus from Egypt. As our joy is diminished, so our wine is diminished.
Noah, perhaps, doesn’t fully grasp the significance of this passage, but he realized it was important. That was enough for him. He wanted to do something important during the Seder and that filled me with pride!
My Aloha Friday question for today is twofold: Do you find holidays to be stressful and/or exhausting? Also, what do you enjoy most about celebrating holidays with your children?
Thanks to Kailani at An Island Life for starting this fun for Friday. Please be sure to head over to her blog to say hello and sign the McLinky there if you are participating.
Holidays with just my little family are excellent. But once you add in parents, grandparents, aunts & uncles, then it’s all just too much.
Of course, nearly every holiday is spent with extended family. *eyeroll*
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When my kids were little and growing up I totally stressed during holidays staying up all night preparing things so everything was absolutely perfect.
Now…I make everything easier on myself, order pies, make simple dishes and enjoy relaxing times with the family. ;D
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Holidays are a little stressful for me, but mostly fun and it’s just time to make great memories and take pictures. I cook for two days, and then the kids come over, and they do dishes, and it’s nothing, but hugs and smooches all day & watching Disney on the tube with the kids all around the boob tube.
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Yes they are stressful yet joyful it’s hard to have all the asecial things that make holidays more than any other day without the stress that goes into creating them. I am always exhausted after holidays but the time with family and special kid memories are the best.
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I remember doing the drawer thing. Making sure every last crumb is out of the home. I no longer do it, How every I believe that our spring cleaning is a product of that time.
As I get older the stress seems to be getting less. I think it is because I no longer fret over the holidays. Taking more of a laid back view and focusing on the enjoyment of the time with family and friends. Learning to do things earlier or as I do now just make a reservation and go out with the family.
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Holidays have always been laid back and chill for me. I never stress about them. I plan ahead, try to stay on schedule and always have fun!
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Yes…I’m so glad we are past a lot of that stuff these days.
yes, most definitely! I stress myself out so bad it’s not funny!
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YES! It’s such a hassle but the reward is little smiling faces and that makes it all worth it.
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No, I do not find them stressful or exhausting, I love family gatherings. We do not have kids just yet but I do enjoy my holidays with my husband or family when we are able to be together.
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My family can be a bit hard work, so I do find them stressful!
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Yes, I always wait till the last minute causing unneeded stress.
The best part about celebrating holidays with my kids is being able to see it from their eyes.
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